Divorce LawyerI not too long ago overheard someone in a bookstore telling a group of people why they need to not have their very own attorneys, how they may not trust attorneys, how attorneys would cheat them and the way they should depend upon the company the speaker belonged to instead. Very few couples can agree on, establish, and amicably break up assets in a divorce and not using a lawyer. If you do not have children, have few belongings – should you entered the wedding owning your own vehicles and rented your property, for instance – and agree no spousal help is required of either celebration because, maybe, the marriage was short, you are able to do it yourself on-line.

Let’s face it. We can’t all have the perfect lawyers out there. You will need to compare retainer fees. When you may be underneath the impression that you simply want …

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Several years ago, one of my best girlfriends called me. Through tears, she said, “My husband left me for another woman.” It was horrible. I could not have felt worse for her.

She had been happily married (or so she thought) for over two decades, and was unearthed by her husband asking for a divorce, and then marrying the woman he was cheating with, just days after their divorce was final.

It was a tough road for my friend. I watched her go from rock bottom at day one, trying to absorb the shock, through all the phases. They included tears, depression, furry, fear, bad dates, confusion. Where is she now? She is a happy, healthy beautiful, successful person who is very much in love with a great guy.

 

Patricia Van Haren, Divorce Attorney

 

Now, what about her ex?

Here is where I think any woman who experiences “My husband left me for another woman”

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From a recently separated reader:  I’m going through a divorce after 21 years of marriage and want to know how to survive divorce. Will I survive? I felt strong until we sold our house and I actually moved out. I’m sick, sad, and very depressed. I don’t know who I am without him and I don’t know how to be single and independent. How will I survive? 

  

Messages I receive like this one from people going through a divorce and wanting to know how to survive divorce are perhaps the most heartbreaking for me. I can only imagine this woman sitting at her computer feeling hopeless, tears in her eyes, typing this message and feeling lost.

 

Grace Untethered - Holly Herzog

 

My answer to the question, “Will I survive?” is HELL YES. Not surviving isn’t an option. Your loved ones (and children if you have them) need you to pull it together and not only

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The first time meeting with a divorce lawyer can feel stressful. In my 34 years of practicing law, I can say that when I meet a client for the first time, though each situation is unique, the client is almost always feeling common emotions. These can include: sadness, anger, fear, and of course, confusion. There are so many questions to ask a divorce lawyer, and sometimes, clients don’t even know what to ask!

 

It is important to ask a lot of questions and to ask the right questions, so that you hire an attorney you feel you can trust, who you feel comfortable with, and who you think will get you the best outcome possible.

 

If you are considering or planning on meeting with a divorce attorney, I think I can help make the meeting more productive by offering:

 

10 Questions to Ask a Divorce Lawyer at Your First Meeting

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As a newly separated or divorced person, I remember wanting to make really good new year’s resolutions. Not the typical ones like these…

“I’m going to lose 20 pounds.”

“I’m writing that book I’ve been talking about since 1997.”

“I’m going to cut out red wine.”

“I’m joining a gym and going 7 days a week.”

“I’m going to quit vaping.”

“I’m going to be nicer to my ex.”

 

Grace Untethered - Holly Herzog

 

What I didn’t realize back then was that being newly separated or divorced is a wonderful time to make real, meaningful, special new year’s resolutions. It’s an opportunity to really get a fresh start; to be done with looking at the past and even looking forward, but rather staying in the present, thinking about what you are grateful for today, what you want you life to be like, and how you are going to get that life–one step at a time.

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I’ve only had one panic attack (lucky me!) and it was during my divorce.  As a therapist, I knew exactly what was happening to me as I have seen anxiety and panic attacks after a breakup or a divorce with many clients over the years. Still, it scared the crap out of me.  I couldn’t catch my breath; my heart was pounding, and I felt a sense of doom. My anxiety was never more pronounced than during that time period, as well.  Divorce is no joke when it comes to anxiety and panic attacks.

Divorce is one of the top five life stressors, and according to the US Surgeon General 30-40 percent of adults in the divorce process have a significant increase in symptoms of anxiety and depression. This article will address the symptoms, the causes and possible solutions for anxiety and panic attacks after a breakup or a divorce.

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