Are you looking for peace after divorce? Of course you are! Who wouldn’t be? So why do some people achieve peace after divorce and some people stay stuck in a place of frustration, anger, bitterness; in a state of war, with others and with themselves? In my opinion, the different lies in one word:

Self-awareness.

Ask someone why he orshe got divorced, and typically you’ll get one of these kinds of answers:

 

My husband left me.

 

My wife cheated.

 

My husband’s an asshole.

 

My wife’s a bitch.

 

We grew apart.

 

We were really unhappy.

 

We never loved each other.

 

How long do you have?

 

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While I’m not judging anyone for what he or she wants to say or remember in their mind about why they got divorced, I think there are some divorced people who have an edge– they have something that helps them achieve peace after divorce

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Holidays are supposed to be fun and action-packed, but they can feel challenging and overwhelming, especially for divorced parents. Nearly 88 percent of Americans find the holidays stressful—now add in co-parenting on top of all the hustle and bustle! But co-parenting during the holidays doesn’t have to be stressful. In fact, co-parenting the right way can actually result in a happy, healthy holiday season.

Co-parenting during the holidays can be complicated, and coordinating schedules to meet everyone’s needs and wishes is important. There are a lot of things you need to balance!

It totally makes sense why you might feel like dividing the holidays fairly between you and your ex is a good idea. After all, you love your kids and the holidays are a special time when most of us gather as a family. Of course, you don’t want them to miss out.

However, while splitting the holidays right

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The holiday season is such a fun time to go to your mailbox. Why? Because you probably get some beautiful holiday and Christmas cards from family and friends. You get to see everyone’s kids, how much they’ve grown, and smiling, happy faces. You also get to send your holiday cards, spreading good cheer and your kids happy faces. But what happens when you get divorced? Should you still send holiday cards? This article addresses holiday and Christmas card etiquette after divorce.

 

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What should the return address label read?

What should the greeting say?

How should you sign the card?

Can you still use “The Smiths?” even if “The Smiths” aren’t living in the same house any longer?

Will people think it’s weird if your ex isn’t in the picture? (literally?)

Should you even send them?

These are all really tough questions, especially if this is your first holiday season

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In many states, including Illinois, divorcing couples with children are required by law to attend divorce mediation in an attempt to come to custody, financial and other child-related agreements. Some couples are able to find success by mediating, and all that’s left to do is for their attorneys to draw up an official agreement and submit it to the courts. However, while the process works for some divorcing couples, it is not uncommon for no settlement at mediation, and at that point, they begin the litigation process.

 

Possible Reasons for No Settlement at Mediation

In my experience, there are a multitude of reasons why mediation may result in no settlement.  Here are 3:

 

1. Emotions and Egos of the Parents:

Nobody gets divorced because everything in their family life is going as they had planned, hoped or wanted.  That’s why divorce mediation is often highly emotional, and can be fueled

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Anger during divorce is completely normal and understandable.  I think it is healthy to live those emotions–to feel them. Actually, I think it’s unhealthy if a person getting divorced doesn’t have anger. Most people who have been through a divorce have anger. They are furious at the ex, resentful, and bitter, at times. But, eventually those feelings fade and people move on. That said, a lot of people ask, “How do you stop being angry about divorce?”

The answer to this question is complicated because every divorce situation is unique, and everyone has his or her own timetable and range and variety of emotions to process and handle.

So, I will try to answer based on my own experience, and on the hundreds of divorce stories I’ve heard (and written about.) When I got divorced several years ago, I was angry. Really angry. I was angry with myself, angry with

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We all know how complicated dating can be, especially in the age of technology. It seems like everyone is always on their phone and it’s tough to connect with someone and build a relationship. That leads us to dating rules. They help you stay on track and protect you from people who might not have your best interests at heart. When you follow the dating rules, it becomes much easier to find a partner.

 

Your dating rules should be personal to you and what you want out of a relationship. These guidelines will assist you in weeding out one-sided or toxic relationships so that you don’t waste your time on them. Remember that the rules you find most difficult to follow are often the most important, so don’t ignore them just because they’re tough. 

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If you’re single, installing a trusted dating app

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Loneliness might be the most painful emotion a person can have. It can feel empty and scary and sad and unfair. Being lonely can make a person feel sorry for him or herself. It can make a person feel angry, like “Why me?” It can make someone feel unworthy of love, or like maybe they shouldn’t have gotten divorced. But however you are feeling about loneliness, it’s really, really hard. I want to talk specifically about loneliness after divorce.

A lot of people getting divorced and feeling loneliness after divorce ask, “Will I survive?” My answer is 100% absolutely yes!!

Before I get into how, I want to talk about loneliness, in general. A lot of people going through a divorce look at their married friends and think, ‘I wish I had a marriage like hers,’ or ‘How are they able to make things work and I couldn’t?’

Here’s how

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Here are excerpts from an email I received from a single mom who writes, “I was cheated on.” The woman dated this guy for 8 years. Seven months ago, she found out he cheated on her for the last year of their relationship, basically living two lives. He ended up choosing to be with the other woman.

 

I asked him 5 times over the last year if he was seeing anyone else and he said no. 

 

It’s been almost 7 months and every day I wake up with a punch in my stomach.  When will this ever end?  The feeling of worthlessness I have is overwhelming.  He and I were together for 8 years and for him to treat me so poorly the last year of our relationship has made me feel worthless. 

 

 

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He knew I trusted him completely and he looked in my eyes and lied and knew I

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Divorce is one of the most devastating things you can go through, not just emotionally but financially, as well. Many women come out of the process with a financial situation that seems disastrous.  Part of the reason is because the divorce process is so expensive, but part of it is because they are often left having to pay bills with less money than they had before. That said, I promise there is hope. In this article, I want to offer you 8 money management tips to help you feel less stressed and more optimistic about your financial situation.

 

8 Money Management Tips for after the divorce

1. Figure out what you have.

 

If your divorce just wrapped up, you’re probably intimately aware of what you have when it comes to money. Now is the time to make a list of all the bank accounts, credit cards, investment accounts, retirement accounts,

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I remember my first Thanksgiving after divorce 15 years ago. What a mess I was, visiting my family with my two toddlers, feeling sad, scared, embarrassed, angry and so many more emotions. I had gotten separated in August, so everything was still new, feelings were raw, and I was feeling anxiety about the actual divorce process which was impending. All that said, I remember feeling thankful for my family, and I did have a pretty good time.

But what if this is your first Thanksgiving after divorce and you don’t have plans? What if your kids are with your ex this year and you are home alone? What if you have to go to a party by yourself and you don’t even know how to act or what to say to people who ask, “Where’s So and So?” What if you have your kids and they start crying because they

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